88 days

88 days, sober. 
88 days, without a hit.
88 days, challenge.
88 days, torment.
88 days, wanting to cheat.
88 days, having the opportunity to cheat.
88 days, remembering of what is important.
88 days, cravings intensify.
88 days, starting to feel like I will make it.

Some people do not seem to understand that food addiction is quite like alcohol addiction. It is a constant struggle and a pain in the ass!   I have trouble with will power.  After coming off an extreme (in my opinion) detox, knowing I can re-introduce foods was a great moment!  I could not wait to have some rice and peas, some good cooked foods, some REAL food!  But what happened was that little voice in my head, Gary, said, ''you can have some junk foods too, just a bit?  Maybe the healthier junk foods. No chips or fries, but what's wrong with just a burger?''  And I say out loud, ''NO!!''

I go to my acting class every Tuesday night. After class, I am so tempted to have a slice of pizza from the pizza place next door to the acting studio.  I manage to walk past it and get in my car.  But as I drive, Gary says, ''Just a bite of something!'' He tries to take control of the car and make me stop to buy something, but I have to overpower him and drive straight home. Sometimes I might have some carrot sticks and I would eat those, or I drown Gary with water to the point I feel so full I cannot eat even if I wanted to.

Another thing, would you expect to see a recovering alcoholic working in a bar?  Well that is my issue as well.  No, I do not drink and never was an alcoholic, what I mean is, I am an food addict and I work in a family owned Caribbean grocery store!  We sell so much good tasting things!

From hot Jamaican patties...

...to spice buns...

...to Trinidad style Doubles and Chicken roti!

 

 

Jamaican patties have about the same nutritional value as a Big Mac! I would eat 2 as a snack. The Spice bun would be breakfast, plain and simple.  Trinidad style doubles are SOOO good, those are the yellower ones in the pic.  They are curried chick peas between two slices of 'bread' called bara, that is deep fried. The roti is THE best!  It can be curried chicken or goat in a roti, which is like a huge pita bread but better!

 

So you see my dilemma! Especially when I am hungry at work.  There is also something called rock cakes (The pic I took did not come good.).  It is a huge coconut cookie that comes in 2-packs or 6-packs.  2-pack is a snack and 6-pack would be meal.  This is how I use to eat!  I DO NOT WANT TO DO THIS ANYMORE!!!!

 

I will be leaving my job in January.  Not for these reasons of food addiction, but for other personal reasons and choices.  But to get away from the temptation would be a huge benefit to me as well.  Think of the smell of your favourite food. Smell it everyday and constantly have to make the choice not to eat it. 

 

88 days, done.

88 days, over.

88 days, deep breathing.

88 days, one day at a time.

88 days, just the beginning.

Finally pics are up!

I Finally loaded my pics!  Find them in my pics section!  These are my October 1st weigh-in at 289 pounds.  Now, watch me change! Funny how when I see my own pics, I want to push harder to look better for the next set of pics I need to take! 

October Update

As of October 1 2013 I am down to 289 pounds!  It is not a staggering amount of weight lost since July 1 2013, where I weighed in at 307 pounds, but a pound lost is a pound lost!  I am turning up the workouts for October and I will have a better loss for Novembers weigh-in.  Also, pictures will be coming soon!  I had to re-take pictures since my old computer with all my pics is not working anymore! 

This was also suppose to me a video update but I have been under the weather lately with a flu and now got some sort of virus today.  But NO EXCUSES! This is not going to hold me back!  I will post a vid soon, pictures coming within the next few days or hours too. 

Realization in the metro

This past Tuesday I started an acting class and it was so much fun.  It was down-town and the teacher told me it would be better to take public transit than to drive because of parking.  Well several things happened with my journey in the Montreal transit system.

First, this was the first time in years (8 years minimum) since I took bus and metro in Montreal.  Usually I drive everywhere I need to go.  So there was some changes, mostly with the method of payment.  There is a new card called an OPUS pass.  Well, my wife had one and told me to just put some money on it and away I go on the metro.  I went to the teller and she said that the card is expired.  How can a card you need to charge up be expired?  She said it expired last year and to just throw it away.  She can sell me a new OPUS card for $6, plus whatever amount of money I want to put on it.  But a one-way pass is $3. So I just bought a one-way pass and off I went.  The metro seemed to have gotten dirtier in the past couple of years. Mostly graffiti and old news papers flying around.  On the plus side was an automated voice that stated the name of each up coming station.

On my way back home I could not get over how many people had earphones on that were connected to cellphones.  Nearly everybody was either listening to music or playing games or reading on their mobile devices.  Ok, when I was in school, we all had a Walkman (remember those?) or cd players.  But hardly anybody was sitting still just 'being.'  It was interesting to look around at everyone and see the trouble they have to just disconnect and BE.  Luckily for me I forgot my earphones at home and could not listen to music on my journey.  Especially on the bus, people without earphones would continually look at their cellphones from time to time. 

Yes, at times I have trouble disconnecting as well.  But not to the point of obsession.  I do not have a data plan on my phone, so if there is no free Wi-Fi well, my phone is just a phone! There are games and music on it, but I am not constantly on it and I do not have time or patience for a game.  It really feels good to just be sitting there, or better yet, go for a walk without the distraction.  I love going for a walk with my phone in my pocket and no earphones on.  Just letting my mind be free to wander, to look around and truly see the sights around me, to consciously take a deep breath and feel the freshness of the air and most importantly, hear any oncoming traffic as I cross a street!

The last realisation I had was how bad out of shape I am in! Oh man! Time to turn up the dial on my workouts!  The travelling was fun, just too late for me.  Being the father of two girls, I am home early and in bed even earlier.  So when the class is over and I travel back home, 10:30 at night feels like 2am for me.  But that is not the out of shape part.  The out of shape part came the next day when both my legs were sore!  My calves were hurting going up and down a flight of stairs! Even sitting on the toilet was hard to do.  I decided to make my workouts better and modify less.  So instead of stepping up from down-dog position to bent barback, I started jumping up.  Instead of 3-count push-ups on the knees, I started 3-count push-ups no knees unless absolutely necessary.

As for the acting class now, that was a blast!  I had so much fun and I cannot wait for Tuesday's now.  It really got me out of my comfort zone. There was even a point when the teacher called upon me to present first.  That was hard for me.  But I got up there, did my thing and it was great!  This was only the first class!  Going from a shy guy to a more confident guy seems like a fun journey!  What changes and revelations will next class bring!

WHY have goals and rewards

Last night I posted about setting goals and having rewards.  Today, I was asked why.  Questions like, 'Rewards seems so childish.  Do you as an adult really NEED a reward?  Why? Why can't you just attain your goal and let that be the end of it?'  Well here is why. 

First let me start with goals.  Everyone should have goals in life.  No matter what your age, gender, capabilities, WHATEVER!  Goals are needed.  Think for a minute if you had no goals to attain.  Would you feel fulfilled?  Would you feel happy?  Just living from day to day without any point, without any direction?  That is no way to live. Trust me, I know!  For the longest while in my life, I did not set any goals.  Just went to work, came home, ate, slept.  What kind of life is that?  Seems pretty boring... and it was. 

With goals, it gives me the feeling of accomplishing something.  It makes me feel important.  It gives me purpose.  I feel alive with goals.  To look ahead and see in the horizon, my goal being attained.  To look back and see the road that got me here.  To look at where I am going AND to openly accept that hurdles will show up and it is up to me on how to jump over it, or stumble, fall down and get back up again.  Goals give me a drive, it makes me feel alive, it makes me feel important.

Now for the childish topic of rewards. Rewards do not have to be an extravagant thing.  Make it something small.  My example was that of going to see a movie or watch a television program.  If you are going to do those things anyways, why not make it a reward for attaining a goal?  It will be much more pleasurable to know you had to work for it.  I have not gone out to see a movie in the longest while! But with the goals and rewards it gives me something to look forward to.  I was already planning on watching the Doctor Who Special online in November, so why not make it a reward? If I do not reach my goal, well, no Doctor Who!  It is something I really want to see and since I put it as a reward it will really help me to stay focused and achieve my goal. 

Think of a boxer, his goal is to be the best! The reward is the title belt, money, fame and women! Ok money, fame and women are kind of a second reward, but in his goal to be the best, to be the top boxer, the reward is standing tall with the title belt wrapped around his waist.  The belt represents that he has attained his goal of being the best.  It makes his view on his uphill battle all the more worthwhile.

Rewards, when kept reasonable, can be a great motivating factor! It is for me.  Is it childish?  Maybe and that is ok with me. Because with goals and rewards I feel alive and I am enjoying my life. 

I know I could have easily edited my last post and put this on there too, but I think this information was worthy of its own post.

Goals and rewards

There is nothing better than a reward, especially when that reward is for reaching a goal!  All my rewards in the past use to be food.  Ever since I was a kid, the reward was food. 

Passed a class                                = food
Was nice to my sister                    = food
Helped out around the house         = food
Got my drivers licence                  = food

So when I decided to change my life and put some goals in, it was quite the challenge to find a reward that was not food. I remember just a few months ago starting this and saying to my wife, 'I don't want anything.  I would just rather go Chinatown and have green curry chicken!'  Of course that did not happen.  But since then, I have decided that when I reach a goal, I would put money aside for something that I would want at a later date. 

For example, I have a weekly goals list, if I reach my goals every week, I get my reward.  My reward would be to put aside some money for the future when I find something I want.  At least this way, the money will be there for me to buy it.  It is MY money, I can spend it on whatever I want.  This past week, we went over budget and did not have enough for groceries.  So I took MY banked up reward money and used that for groceries.  I could have easily bought the stuff on my credit card and placed it back from my next paycheck but it would still not be balanced out our weekly budget.  So this way, my kids get to eat and next weeks budget is on track!

Aside from money being put away, another reward of mine is to go see a movie.  There is a local Dollar-cinema!  Movies are just $2 plus tax!  And on top of that, there is a meet-up group that does free movies there from time to time.  I saw Man of Steel there for FREE and this past Saturday I saw Star Trek Into Darkness there for FREE too!  Now, if I did not meet my goals, I would not have been able to go and see those films. 

Also my rewards have since evolved.  I have it written out that, when I meet my September goals, I will now be able to schedule a massage for myself!  Now to build up the money jar back again so I can go get the massage.

Also, my eating habits have lost its FUN lately.  So I want to put the FUN back in as a reward too.  But this time, it will not be junk foods like burgers and fries or fried chicken or ice cream or even a cola.  This time, I want to make the reward something my body will thank me for.  For example, a meal at the organic vegan raw food restaurant or even something as simple as buying a kombucha drink from my local organic grocery. 

You also know about my long term goal of being DDP yoga certified on July 13 2014! That is its own reward! 

For more about my goals, check out my Goals page!

Slippng

Lately I have been slipping down mentally, physically and emotionally.

Since the Kyle Cease Event, I came back home STRONG and MOTIVATED and INSPIRED!
I felt great!

But then, about mid-August, my energy level has been low and I do not want to be around anyone!  I don't know why this is coming about!

I do my meditations before bed and I sleep great now, but I still feel tired mid-day.  Not like I need a nap, but more like I do not have the energy to get my workouts done! 

I did a great Diamond Cutter last night. But I took the weekend off from doing any workouts and todays workout was ok. 

Aside from the fatigue, I am just tired of everything.  Tired of this raw food detox, tired of weighing myself, tired of having to be conscious and monitor everything I choose to eat, tired of medications, tired of supplements, tired of work, tired of customers, tired of almost everything!  I just feel so negative.

Mentally, I do not feel creative right now.  I have an idea for a book series to write, but I just do not feel inspired to put the pen to the paper.

Physically, I feel too tired to do my workouts properly and I see myself as failing at my goals. 

Emotionally, I cannot take negative criticism anymore.  Don't get me wrong, if I do something wrong I want to be told so I can correct it, that's ok.  But when someone attacks me for my character and who I am, I cannot take that!  I explode! 

I think I know why though.  As a teen, in school, when I was bullied, I never retaliated, I never stood up for myself.  After my school days, I promised myself, I will NEVER let anyone do something to me or say something to me without standing up for myself.  But I realise now, I have been standing up for myself with anger. 

Anybody got some good tips for releasing anger and frustrations? And don't tell me meditation and yoga cause I'm doing BOTH!!!!

Hump in the road

This past weekend was quite the setback and a great reminder of where I was coming from and where I want to get to.

Since Sunday, I have been a little 'off.'  My mood, my attitude, my workouts, my outlook, everything was the old me.  It was my first 'bad' day (more like bad 4 days) since the Kyle Cease Event in mid-July, so about a month ago. 

I went from feeling like I was on top of my game, to feeling the weight of the world on my shoulders.  Just frustrated but I did not know why.  So for the meditation that night it was really hard to clear my mind.  I physically felt uncomfortable sitting to do my meditation, as if my body did not want me to.  I did some deep breathing but was getting more angry with myself.  More impatient, more frustrated.  I ended up sitting there for an hour pissed off.  Then tossed and turned myself to sleep in bed. 

The next morning, I was feeling a bit better.  But I was attracting some MAJOR negativity around me!  It felt like it was the day of, me versus EVERY ASSHOLE ON THE ROAD!  Some guy changing lanes on the highway without indicating, not even looking in his blind-spot and I had to hit the breaks... and the horn like a pissed off ass! Then another guy, did not even stop at the stop sign, in a parking lot, at the same time I am making a left turn right in front of him! Then almost getting run over by a guy talking on his cell phone while driving and decided to roll through the stop sign.  Of course, I slammed my hand on the hood of his car (as if that would save me!) and yelled at him for being an idiot! 

And we all know what happens!  That the person gets the glare-stare-down, that shows I am pissed off with you, but I will do nothing and not let it go either, except look at you with my face all contorted and disfigured from being pissed off and my eye-brows nearly touching!  So they drive off and forget about me within 2 seconds whereas I remain pissed off for the whole day!

Thankfully, I realized what was going on with me and that I was attracting these events.  I stopped in a parking lot, turned off my vehicle and did some deep breathing and told myself, I need to do an emergency meditation session RIGHT NOW, before I drive off, because I need to let this go NOW in order to enjoy the rest of my day. 

So I did the meditation and felt better afterwards.  Not 100% better, but enough to not attract bad drivers!  During the meditation, I sat down with my inner voice 'Gary' and asked him, what was going on and he said,  ''Hey, don't look at me, this was all you!'' And I realised he was right.  I chose to be pissed off and let things and circumstances effect me.

It is now Wednesday night and I decided tomorrow morning is a reboot of sorts.  I started the workouts for the DDP Yoga certification, but I need to drop back to basics and hit out a workout from the dvd set instead, for now.  Also, my mindset needs to be reset!  The leaping that is in the process, of moving soon to a location where the rent is more than double of what I pay now AND leaving the security of my family grocery store without even having another job lined up, well, it scares me.  Also, most people, with the exception of my wife and parents, all think I am either stupid or crazy.  But in the end, their opinion do not matter anyway.  What the hell have they ever done for me except hold me down with their negativity?  My wife and parents are the ones who tell me to move forward! I need more people like them in my life!

And I do!  The great people at www.teamddpyoga.com and on the Kylego groups on Facebook!  You guys are all so awesome! 

So I took 4 days to be in the 'poor me' attitude and mentality!  I think I needed that reminder in order to push harder.

I am off to start it now!  I am doing a kylego session with myself a year from now and then meditation! 

Oh, one last thing, there is nothing like doing a meditation session in the middle of the morning then listening to music blearing loud in the car while I drive at 100km/hr on the open highway! 

LOVE IT!

Eye brows almost touching!

Gonna Get Certified!!!!!

Man-o-man do I feel great!

With DDP Yoga, my wife being my health coach AND my new mind-set, thanks to everyone at the Kyle Cease Event, I feel UNSTOPPABLE!!!!

I got the support from teamddpyoga.com and from the kylego group on Facebook. 

I put in my application to get DDP Yoga certified this past Sunday night and I feel so good about my decision! 

Monday I was feeling so tired and drained by the time I got home from work.  I was planning to skip my workout.  It was also my second day on my raw foods detox liquid day (Green smoothies and green juices only!).  I sat down to do my meditation and planned after that I would go to bed.

BUT!

During my meditation, it struck me.  I just signed up the night before to get certified and now I am slacking off already?

This question came to me: Do you want to be certified on July 13 2014? 

With my eyes closed, I smiled and said yes! I got up, washed my face and hit my yoga mat!  What ended up happening was, THE BEST DAMN WORKOUT I EVER HAD! I was drenched in sweat!
My heart-rate was in the zone!  And I felt so alive and great! 

As soon as I was done, I took these pics:

As you can see, my vest was soaked!  AND my heart-rate was JACKED! The 137 is my current heart-rate when I took the pic and the A-139 is my average heart-rate during the workout! 

 

After these pics, I remembered what inspired me to get my ass off the couch, so I wrote it down and taped it up, opposite the couch so I can see it everyday, every time I sit down:

Tonight I had another great workout and ready to MOVE FORWARD!!!! My wife took pics of me while I did the workout, cause I think she never seen me sweat so much!  I would share them here, but I can't, I was overheating so I lost the shorts and continued in my undies!!! Tee-hee!!!!

My discussion with Gary

A 'sit down' talk with Gary.

The vid ends kind of abruptly at the end, my mobile ran out of space, but I was done anyways! 

Was just saying at the end, that I might not do a video tomorrow but I will see and go with the flow!

The day 'Gary' kicked my ass!

My confrontation with Gary!

Who is Gary?  Gary is the voice in your head that tells you that you cannot do something and puts doubt into your mind!

Right after doing this video, I realised that Gary is trying to protect me from failure in his own unique way! So Thank you Gary for being so caring, but it is ok.  I got this!